Why I love being Sabine
People occasionally ask how an educated, accomplished woman decided to spend her time as an intimate companion.
The short answer is: intentionally. The longer answer is a little more interesting.
Like many women, I grew up surrounded by messages about what was acceptable, desirable, respectable, and appropriate. Some of those messages served me well. Others quietly taught me to disconnect from parts of myself.
Over time, I became increasingly interested in what helps people feel fully alive. That curiosity has taken me many places. What I have discovered along the way is that many of us are carrying far more loneliness, shame, disconnection, and unspoken longing than we choose to admit.
Many people are not simply looking for the physicality of sex. Although some are, which is to be celebrated. However, others are looking for connection, touch, affection, permission to be themselves, play, novelty, acceptance, or a conversation they cannot have anywhere else.
The people I have met since starting this work are wonderfully diverse. They include single people seeking connection, parents who have spent years putting everyone else first, people who are no longer interested in traditional relationships, widows and widowers navigating a new chapter of life, couples wanting to explore and grow together, and curious individuals who simply want to learn more about themselves.
There is also a personal dimension to my choice. This work is challenging me to examine my own conditioning, assumptions, and relationship with sex and intimacy. It has invited me to become more honest, more self-aware, and more comfortable inhabiting all parts of myself. I find being an intimate companion creative, fascinating, rewarding, and a lot of fun.
No two people are the same. No two conversations are the same. No two experiences are the same.
I don’t actually think intimacy, touch, pleasure, and connection are luxuries. They are part of being human. This is very human work. And when approached with integrity,it's a meaningful way to contribute to the wellbeing of others.
For me, it is not simply a job to do (although, the remuneration is important to me). It’s a meeting place between curiosity, connection, service, freedom, and play. And for now, it’s exactly where I want to be.
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