On shame, curiosity, and seeking connection

From time to time, people tell me they feel nervous or embarrassed about contacting an escort agency and booking an intimate companion.

Sometimes they're worried about being judged. Sometimes they wonder what it says about them. Sometimes they carry a sense of shame that is difficult to explain.

I understand.

We live in a world that often sends mixed messages about intimacy, desire, pleasure, and connection. We are encouraged to seek happiness, yet often taught to hide parts of ourselves along the way.

The truth is that the people I meet come from all walks of life. They are men, women, and couples. Some are experienced, others are curious first-timers. Some are seeking novelty, some are meeting their desires, while others simply want touch, affection, conversation, or to feel truly seen.

I don't believe there is anything shameful about wanting connection.

There is nothing shameful about wanting to feel desired.

There is nothing shameful about being curious.

There is nothing shameful about wanting to explore parts of yourself that you may not have had the opportunity to explore before.

Like many things in life, what matters most is how we go about it—with honesty, respect, kindness, and consideration for ourselves and others.

Curiosity tends to open doors that shame keeps firmly closed.

Sometimes the most interesting parts of ourselves are waiting patiently on the other side.

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